Widow and Widowers
Divorcees: Laws and Traditions
Children Attending Parent's Weddings
Setting A Date for Second Marriage
A Kohen's Concern
Where to Celebrate a Second Marriage
Second Wedding: Appropriate Attire
The Sheva Brachot (Wedding Feasts)
Ceremonies for a second marriage (third, or fourth etc.) are identical to first marriages, in its ritualistic sense. Many, however, curtail the size of reception, and their wedding
attire usually conforms with the fashions and etiquette of the time.
Widows and Widowers
Jewish law requires a widow to wait out 90 days to be certain of the originator of an undetected pregnancy. A woman who is post-menstrual or cannot possibly be pregnant may be permitted to marry earlier on. Men wait for three festivals to pass before marrying again.
A man or woman may remarry as soon as they have obtained a Jewish divorce or get, though a three-months waiting period is usually required of the women, depending on circumstance. We recommend that you ask you rabbi.
According to halacha, remarrying a former wife is permitted if she hadnt married another person in the interim.
Children Attending a Parents Wedding
Tradition kept children from attending a parents remarriage ceremony. Deference to the other parents honor is the reason.
Talk with a rabbi. Less restrictions are placed on second wedding dates than on a first wedding.
A Kohens Concerns
A kohen, a descendant of the priests who served in the ancient Holy Temple in Jerusalem, may marry a widow, but there are other restrictions placed on kohen.
See more information in Forbidden Marriages.
Where to Hold a Second Marriage Ceremony
Marriage ceremonies model many aspects of Gods presentation of the Ten Commandments to the Jewish people, because this is when God married the Jewish People to their special destiny. Following this archetype, second ceremonies are often held indoors just as the second set of the Ten Commandments were given privately forty days after the sin of the Golden Calf.
Second Wedding Attire
Nothing appears to be in Jewish tradition against a bride wearing white in a second wedding. Societal norms may influence a bride to choose otherwise.
Before investing in a ketubah, be sure it is written for a second marriage. As a Jewish legal document, cross outs are not permitted on the ketubah making it difficult to adapt a first-marriage ketubah for a second marriage. Some ketubot are written with fill-in blanks for this reason. Another option is a handwritten, completely personalized ketubah.
Sheva Berachot - Wedding Feasts
For some reason only three wedding feasts are held during the week following a second marriage. The first feast is celebrated at the wedding reception, leaving two more days of sheva berachot to enjoy.